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[janradder]

Saturday is Arie's birthday party.  Last year, we had his party at a bowling alley and he really liked it so he wanted to have a bowling party again.  I booked the lanes and got invitations then asked Arie who he wanted to invite.  He listed off a group of eight kids so we wrote out the invitations and sent them out last week.  It's now been five days since the invitations should have been received and, as yet, we've only gotten two RSVPs back.  Luckily one of those is from Arie's best friend at school but I'm terrified that those are the only two kids who will be coming to Arie's party.  I feel absolutely sick when I think about it.  I have no idea how well he gets along with kids at his school -- if they like him, if they tolerate him, if they just kind of avoid him or what.  Arie has trouble making friends and trouble playing with other kids because of his Asperger's so I just never know if when he tells me someone is his friend at school, is that kid really a friend or is he or she just someone Arie plays near or sometimes does school things with.  When I was in school there was a while (most especially in 5th grade) where I was universally despised by the vast majority of the school and I can't help but project those feelings and fears I had back in grade school onto my son.  Each Valentine's Day I agonize over each little card that my kids get .  I think, did this kid give my son a card out of obligation?  Do the other kids like my son?  I have to remind myself that I'm again projecting, but it's really hard to stop, especially once I get going.  So now we're five days away from Arie's party and only two out of eight kids have responded and I'm thinking of the possibility that these will be the only kids other than his brother who go to the party and I'm thinking about how Arie will react if that happens, and will his feelings be hurt, and what will I do if it happens.

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[janradder.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the feedback. If it comes to it, I'll try that approach with Arie.